Sarah E
Dream:
Dream 1
The dreams are about a male acquaintance of mine called Clayton. They aren't the same dream but always based on the theme of marriage and romance. I'm always very happy with Clayton in the dreams. This is a change from last year when I had another series of recurring dreams of me being married to other male friends of mine but I was always very unhappy in them. There was a gap of a few months between the end of those dreams and when the dreams about Clayton started.
Here are the three dreams I had about Clayton that I remember. I think there may have been more but I can't remember them.
DREAM 1:
Clayton and I were with a bunch of our friends on the Stirling Bridge near Fremantle but there were no cars in sight. Our friends crossed the bridge and were waiting for us on the other side. Clayton and I were walking side by side but looking straight ahead. Then the backs of our hands started to brush against each other and suddenly we were holding hands. I was too nervous to look at him so I kept looking straight ahead. His hand felt so soft and warm. Our friends stopped shouting to us to join them and were staring at us in amazement and starting whispering amongst themselves. Eventually I got the nerve to look up at Clayton and he looked at me. Then he gently pulled his hand away from mine and we walked to the other side of the bridge in silence.
DREAM 2:
Clayton and I were on our honeymoon and we were shopping at some markets in south west WA. We came across a stall selling framed pictures and I started rummaging through them looking for a bargain. I came across a picture of a blue cartoon elephant and we decided to buy it for a nursery even though we decided we weren't having children for quite a few more years. A middle-aged lady with hair in a grey bob was looking quite annoyed because she wanted the picture herself.
DREAM 3:Clayton and I had been married for a few months and we were at home. We had just had lunch and I was going to make some dessert but Clayton said he wanted to have sex with me. I promised him we would but I would make him a nice dessert first. I gave him a few scoops of vanilla ice-cream with chocolate topping and he really enjoyed it.
Interpretation:
Often when a theme repeats like this..... it is your inner teacher giving you the same message over and over again, to get you to wake up to something you are leaving entirely in the unconscious realms - not always a good idea.
DREAM 1:
You and Clayton were with a bunch of your friends on the Stirling Bridge near Fremantle but there were no cars in sight. Bridges symbolise crossing over into another area of life, no cars the symbol of one's direction in waking life, could mean that none of you have really discovered your true personal direction at this point in life you are "On the Road" not in your cars driving along yet. Your friends crossed the bridge and were waiting for you and Clayton on the other side. You two are walking side by side but looking straight ahead. This means you are still seeking your individual paths.
Then the backs of your hands started to brush against each other and suddenly you're holding hands. You say... "I was too nervous to look at him so I kept looking straight ahead. His hand felt so soft and warm." It is important to recall what you felt. You might have felt supported, wildly excited or something else. We tend to assume that what we see in a dream is the MOST important thing but it is HOW YOU FEEL about the dream action that is the MOST important key to understanding your dreams.
Your friends stopped and shout to you to join them. They are staring at you in amazement and start whispering amongst themselves. How does this make you feel? How do you think it makes Clayton feel in your dream? Eventually you get the nerve to look up at Clayton and he looks at you, then gently pulls his hand away, and you walk to the other side of the bridge in silence. Obviously the first acknowledgement by him that perhaps you two have a link on some level. He might change his mind if embarrassed or you may have trouble receiving things thoughts and feelings from him.
When someone gives us their hand, it has a few meanings; we are offered the 'hand of friendship' 'given a hand' with things we have to do. Offered a 'hand in marriage' and Seinfield immortalized gaining the 'upper hand' in on one of his programmes. Seems to me at this point in your dream of Clayton that there is a sense of you two being kindred spirits yet to do more than just acknowledge that at this time would be too embarrassing. We only feel embarrassed when we are unsure about the situation.
DREAM 2:
You and Clayton are on your honeymoon, shopping at the markets in south west WA. Sounds as if you would not have a terribly exciting honeymoon shopping at the local markets. You come across a stall selling framed pictures and you start rummaging through them looking for a bargain. Perhaps in life you take what is on offer and looks like a good thing but is it what YOU REALLY WANT? What about shopping in Paris, having a wild tropical honey moon? What is Your Picture Of The Perfect Relationship, Courtship, Marriage Lifestyle, Retirement?
In the next bit you buy something you do not need for years yet, even though someone else really does want that picture right now. How selfish of you both. See how you 'come across a picture of a blue cartoon elephant.' You do not go looking for anything in particular. Then decide to buy it for a nursery even though you have decided you aren't having children for quite a few more years. The middle-aged lady with hair in a grey bob was looking quite annoyed because she wanted the picture herself. It suited her present reality perfectly and by you wanting something you don't really need you deprive her of her picture. You first need to know what YOU want as your life purpose then the perfect partner can fit into your picture not you fitting into someone else's picture.
DREAM 3:
You and Clayton have been married for a few months and are at home. Had just had lunch and you were going to make some dessert but Clayton says he wants to have sex with you. Then you promise him you will...... but...... you'll make him a nice dessert first. Can you see how this dream is showing you how you are controlling the situation there is no spontaneous action that has great importance in the present moment like the picture you don't need in the last one. His need to connect to you is modified by you, you control the timing i. e. yes, I promise but have this treat first.
Then you give him a few scoops of vanilla ice-cream with chocolate topping and he really enjoys it. In this dream it is what is missing that would worry me. You seem to be living like my grandparents did in their seventies and they were born at the turn of the last century what do you want Sarah in this time that adds value to yourself and others? No wonder you are really puzzled about the meaning of these dreams. This is at least a change from last year when you had another series of recurring dreams of being married to other male friends but were always unhappy.
This was you trying to see what you already know you don't want. There was a gap of a few months between the end of those dreams and when the dreams about Clayton started. Still looking outside of yourself for happiness. Clayton might be a better picture than what you have now, but where is your own picture? - Time to see who YOU want to be and work out what you need from there. Good inner hunting Sarah